Dabney Hayes , LPCC, LPC

Dabney Hayes is a licensed counselor with more than 14 years of clinical experience. She focuses on helping people caught in cycles of shame, addiction, low self-esteem, perfectionism, trauma, grief, and other painful patterns. Dabney draws on direct, compassionate care to help clients build a different relationship with their thoughts and behaviors.

She works in a nonjudgmental, client-centered way. Sessions aim to be down-to-earth and practical. Dabney helps people address everyday stressors like relationship strain, family conflict, parenting challenges, work or school pressures, and anger.

Her background includes both individual and group therapy experience. She combines tools from several approaches to match each person’s needs. That mix can include strategies to manage anxiety and depression or to cope with major life transitions.

Dabney has particular experience supporting those facing issues common in women’s lives, including body image, intimacy-related concerns, parenting stress, and caregiving strain. She also works with people navigating identity and relationship questions across the LGBT spectrum.

Her style is collaborative and straightforward. Clients can expect practical skills, empathy, and attention to what works for their daily life. Dabney holds the credentials LPCC and LPC and practices from North Carolina.

How these approaches translate to online care

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice painful thoughts without letting them control behavior and focuses on choosing actions that fit personal values. This can help with anxiety, depression, and patterns of avoidance. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at how thoughts, feelings, and actions connect and teaches concrete skills to change unhelpful patterns; it is often used for anxiety, mood problems, and stress. Attachment-Based Therapy concentrates on patterns that formed in close relationships and how those patterns affect current trust, intimacy, and emotion regulation, which can be useful for relationship concerns and attachment issues.

Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the work. The therapist will collaborate with each person to identify goals, try methods that match those goals, and adjust the plan as needed. That collaborative process helps tailor strategies so they fit daily life and personal preferences.

Online therapy offers flexibility to fit sessions into a busy schedule. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and visual cues, phone sessions can be used when bandwidth is limited or for a shorter check-in, and live chat or text messaging offer ongoing support between sessions. These options make it easier to maintain consistency, practice skills in real time, and get help when daily demands make in-person visits difficult.