Lani Stoner , LMFT

Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 27 years of clinical experience. She helps people who are stressed, anxious, grieving, or facing major life changes. Clients also come to her for relationship struggles, parenting concerns, issues with intimacy, addiction, or mood disorders. She works with people across a wide range of challenges, including chronic illness, caregiving strain, and gender and sexual identity questions.

Her style is practical and goal-focused. Sessions tend to be active and directed, with tools people can try between meetings. She draws from client-centered methods to keep the conversation grounded in each person's values. Cognitive behavioral techniques are used to shift patterns of thinking and behavior when that is helpful.

Mindfulness practices are introduced to help with anxiety, sleep, and emotional regulation. Narrative ideas help people reframe difficult stories in their lives. Solution-focused work supports short-term goals and concrete changes when that fits the person's needs.

Stoner has worked in county and agency settings and in private practice. She has experience with chronically mentally ill adults, children, adolescents, and older adults, and has done online volunteer work with military and veteran communities. Her background also includes study in counseling psychology and gerontology.

People who choose her often want clear steps and compassionate listening. She aims to help clients regain hope, improve functioning, and develop healthier relationships. New clients begin by completing a short matching questionnaire and scheduling according to therapist availability.

How Lani’s Approaches Work Online

Client-centered work focuses on each person's goals and values. Online sessions use that stance to guide conversations so the therapist listens and follows what matters most to the client. This approach helps when someone needs empathy and a steady therapeutic relationship.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) provides hands-on strategies to change unhelpful thoughts and behaviors. In virtual sessions this can include setting small experiments, tracking moods between meetings, and practicing new skills during calls to address anxiety, sleep problems, or depression.

Mindfulness therapy introduces simple attention and breathing practices to reduce reactivity and improve focus. These short exercises can be practiced during video visits or reinforced via messaging between sessions to support emotion regulation and stress reduction.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will collaborate with the client to test methods and adjust plans based on goals, preferences, and what feels useful. Sessions can shift between short-term solution-focused steps and deeper narrative or mindfulness work as needed.

Online therapy offers flexibility and accessibility. Video calls allow face-to-face interaction for skill practice and deeper conversation. Phone sessions can fit a busy schedule or save bandwidth. Live chat and text-based messaging are useful for quick check-ins, brief coaching, or when typed reflection feels easier. These options help people fit therapy into work, caregiving, or other life demands.