Nicole Thomte , LMFT

Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Minnesota with 13 years of clinical experience. She uses an inclusive, sex-positive outlook and affirms diverse gender and sexual identities. Nicole approaches care with curiosity and respect, and she centers each person's goals in sessions.

Nicole tends to work in a non-directive and exploratory way. She listens closely, offers observations, and helps people notice patterns in relationships, feelings, and behavior. Humor and plain talk are common in sessions when that fits the person she is meeting.

Her background includes several years at a behavioral health agency and extensive group work with survivors of sex- and gender-based violence. That history shaped how she supports people facing prejudice, discrimination, and complex life challenges. She also has experience with people managing chronic health concerns and overlapping mental health issues.

Nicole draws from practical therapy methods to address anxiety, depression, mood disorders, trauma, and relationship or intimacy concerns. She also helps people with sexual identity and exploration, gender dysphoria questions, non-monogamous relationship dynamics, and BDSM or kink-related topics. She aims to make therapy relevant to daily life.

Sessions are carried out online by video, phone, chat, or text-based messaging. Nicole speaks English and practices from Minnesota. She emphasizes collaboration and respects each person as the expert on their own life.

How practical therapy methods translate to online sessions

Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening, empathy, and reflecting what matters most to the person. In online sessions this means the therapist follows the client's lead, helping them name goals and make choices that fit their life. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, looks at the link between thoughts, feelings, and actions and teaches clear skills to change unhelpful patterns; it is useful for anxiety, depression, panic, and many everyday stresses. Dialectical Behavior Therapy, DBT, emphasizes skills for managing intense emotions, tolerating distress, and improving relationships and can be helpful for mood instability and strong emotional reactions.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work together. The therapist will talk with the person about goals, preferences, and what has or hasn't helped before, and then recommend methods to try. That plan can shift as people learn what fits them best, and the therapist treats this as a collaborative process.

Online sessions are offered by video, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to make therapy easier to fit into busy lives. Video allows face-to-face conversation, phone can be a good option with less bandwidth, chat supports brief check-ins, and messaging can be used for ongoing notes or quick support between sessions. These options aim to increase flexibility and make it more practical to attend regular sessions.